In a previous article, I discussed how discovering your potential mate’s relationship with his/her parents gives you valuable insight into what they will be like in a relationship. In this article, I will focus on another quick way to determine whether your potential mate is relationship material. This technique is so accurate as to be almost 100% error proof in your evaluation process, and it is something that you can pick up on almost instantly, or at least within a few dates.  What is this amazing technique? Read on.

The personality trait alluded to in the title of this article that you are screening for is whether or not your love interest has the ability to admit mistakes.  This is very easy to determine and has great significance to the rest of your relationship. First, let’s take a look at some characteristics that differentiate  between those who admit fault and those that don’t.

1. Those who admit fault are able to take responsibility. These are people, who instead of blaming their parents for everything that’s gone wrong in their lives, take accountability for their actions and recognize, that as adults, they have the power and opportunity to improve themselves and make their own choices and path in life.
2. Those who admit fault are able to learn from their mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. Everyone- it is inevitable. But mistakes are important because they allow us to learn from them and improve. People who always blame others on the failures of past relationships never learn(ed) from those mistakes and are on a continuous cycle, doomed to repeat all their failures from the past.
3. Those who never admit fault tend to be narcissists, completely self-absorbed and unable to share or compromise in a relationship or see another’s point of view. These are not characteristics of a healthy relationship.

Now then, it is clear that individuals who always pass the blame refuse to take responsibility for any of their actions, never learn from their mistakes and are generally too narcissistic and selfish to maintain a healthy relationship. So how do you go about spotting such personality quirks in your potential lover? Fortunately, this is very easy, since these kinds of people reveal themselves instantly.

In casual conversation, wait for an appropriate time and ask a lukewarm question about their parents and past relationships. Make sure you don’t go in like an inquisitor with rapid fire, aggressive questions to put the person on the spot. Be casual, and let them do the talking. Remember, these kinds of people reveal themselves quickly. See if they start blaming their parents, see if all of the reasons for the demise of past relationships had to do with evil exes and had nothing to do with themselves. See how they characterize their exes and how things ended with them- this will be a good hint of how you will be portrayed and how things will end up with both of you. We’ve all been in bad relationships, but when we cannot objectively analyze them and see our own faults (even if the other person was more to blame), we’ve learned nothing from the experience, hence you can expect more of the same if you have the misfortune of getting into a relationship with one of these types.

Here’s another thing you can do- ask the individual a question about a controversial topic such as politics, abortion, same sex marriages, or something of the like. Be careful here, because you’re goal is not to get into a full debate and ruin the whole evening, but rather to get insight into how the other person sees the world and likes to argue. If they start railing in on a particular topic and characterizing everything in a polar, black and white way, while demonizing any alternative view point, chances are this person is going to be very difficult to get along with in the long run. Ask them something and see how they respond, you don’t necessarily want to start expressing any alternate strong viewpoint or start debating, just ask and shut up and listen- the other person will reveal all you want to know.

Remember, if you want to be in a great relationship, make sure you start one with a person who is capable of such a thing. Screen your potential mates carefully and make sure to stay away from those who are always right and never, ever wrong.

Good luck.