Do you always find yourself in your partner’s doghouse? Always walking on eggshells and wondering what you did wrong? Are you constantly trying to retrace the steps of your actions to see why your partner is so upset with you, even though you don’t see what you did wrong?

Welcome to the world of Bad Relationships. You may find yourself constantly on egg shells if you are with someone with a psychological disorder, such as Borderline Personality Disorder. But in most cases, you’re not dating someone crazy and the actions that you did have very little relationship with the real reason for your partner’s ire.

So what put you in the doghouse?

Quite simply put, your partner has lost, or is losing attraction to you.

Is your partner irate that you didn’t wash the dishes, didn’t cook or forgot to take out the garbage? Their irritation has nothing to do with those things…. they are just upset that they have found themselves in a relationship with someone they are no longer attracted to. And probably mostly mad at you for “changing” or “fooling” them into thinking that you were attractive.

So what is the cause of this loss of attraction? Take a look at this simple checklist and see if you see any of your own behaviors there:

1. You have become overly clingy and emotionally needy
2. You have lost your individuality and require your partner to “make you whole”
3. You don’t display any confidence any more
4. You have gotten overly comfortable and are not doing anything new or exciting any more with your partner
5. You don’t stand up for yourself and have generally become a doormat

Do any of these situations describe you? If so, you just found the true reason why your partner is short tempered with you. It’s usually not the actual action that is being blamed that is the cause of the upset. Remember how the same things that you are now being blamed for used to have a positive or neutral reaction from your partner?

Remember, to get out of the doghouse, and save your relationship, remedy the behavior which is slowly eroding attraction and soon you’ll find yourself out of the doghouse for good!