Right now there is a raging debate in the mental health community about the root cause of mental illness. Psychiatrists, who are trained as medical doctors, obviously see in a mostly medical light, as something of biochemical origin. Psychoanalysts, on the other hand, see symptoms such as depression and anxiety as having a basis in [...]

As we all go through our required elementary and high school educations, we are exposed to a great variety of different subjects, from government and civics to physics and biology. Probably the most important subjects we learn are in the very first grade- reading, writing and basic arithmetic. Beyond that, a lot of the subjects [...]

Enter the world of dating and you will find a lot of anxiety, particularly from the ladies, about attractiveness and the role of appearance in the successes and failures of their love lives.  We all know that physical beauty draws other people to you more readily and that being physically attractive makes it easier to [...]

There is a new reality show on TV called Hitched or Ditched…. I thought I saw everything but this takes the cake. In this show, a long-term commitment-phobic couple is being thrown a wedding and has one week to decide whether they’ll go through with it or break up. I’ve seen other shows screw with [...]

When you first meet another person that you may be interested in dating further, a natural tendency comes up to want to tell the other person so many positive things about yourself, to talk about your great career, your great apartment, your amazing music abilities, and your great group of friends. My advice: Just stop.  More [...]

In a previous article, I discussed how discovering your potential mate’s relationship with his/her parents gives you valuable insight into what they will be like in a relationship. In this article, I will focus on another quick way to determine whether your potential mate is relationship material. This technique is so accurate as to be [...]

Studies have shown that most communication is actually nonverbal and that very little of the information that we derive from communication actually comes from verbal content.  In my years in various relationships and in carefully observing human behavior, I’ve come to associate certain behaviors, body positions and mannerisms with certainn underlying psychological states. Here is [...]

Have you ever been in a relationship where something just didn’t feel right, where something was just off? Did you try to rationalize it, come up with reasons why your gut feeling was wrong, that everything was actually quite perfect and you were destined to be with your partner, that he or she is just [...]

As you make your way in the dating scene, you will come across many kinds of people and you will start to see trends in people’s behaviors which will give you an indication of what it would be like to date them over time. Since time is your scarcest commodity, you just don’t have the [...]

When are trying to learn something, such as a new technique or skill, researchers have shown that there is a four stage process at work. This learning process extends to improving your relationship skills as well. You just don’t go from a total novice to an expert right away. It is a gradual process where [...]