I just finished reading a very interesting book by Jared Diamond, an evolutionary scholar, entitled “Why is Sex Fun?” In this book he attempts to determine why humans are virtually the only species of all animals that has sex for pleasure.  All other species except for bonobo chimps, engage in intercourse exclusively for procreation.  Other [...]

We also hear the word “happiness” bandied about as the ultimate goal of our existence as if it were a blanket concept that meant the same to everyone.  But really, what constitutes happiness and how do we actually get it? Many people think that the key to happiness is to make as much money as [...]

A lot of times people venture into, and eventually get stuck in a relationship where the person they are dating has a lot of positive qualities, but yet isn’t exactly everything they are looking for. So, as a result, that other person becomes a “project”, or someone that their partner is trying to change to [...]

A few days ago, I heard on the radio about a study that found that people in their 20s were having sex once every three days, people in their 30s were having sex once every four days, in their 40s it was once every five days, every eight days in their 50s, every 13 days [...]

In speaking with various couples who are undergoing conflict and difficulties in their relationship, I am often asked whether or not they should try to attempt couples counseling (or therapy) as a last gap solution to save their relationship. I think I have caught myself suggesting couples therapy as a stock solution, but then I [...]

John Gottman is a psychologist who specializes in research about marriages and relationships. In his years of research he has determined four types of behavior within a relationship that predicts within 90% accuracy which relationship will succeed and which will fail. These behaviors all consist of ways that people react when dealt with adversity or [...]

Often when I see troubled relationships, there really is no one true source of the problem. In other words, there isn’t one central issue that is undermining the relationship, but rather years and years of multiple troubles piled one on top of another. Trying to get at the root of the issue becomes almost untenable [...]

Last week aired an episode on the Tyra Banks show about couples who had saved themselves for marriage, but had still been unable to consummate sex even after marriage.  Apparently, the women had such a fear of being penetrated, that they tightened up their muscles, causing great pain and discomfort and making the vaginal opening [...]

Recently, I received a question from someone who had just been married about if I had any advice about how to keep a relationship happy even after marriage and how to keep the spark constantly going.
Here was my response, along with links on this site, that expand on and go into further depth on the [...]

One of the most painful things that can happen in one’s lifetime is the dissolution of a relationship, particularly a long-term relationship where both of you had planning a future together. All of a sudden it feels like all your plans and dreams are shattered and you are left having to pick up the pieces, [...]