Ever watched the show “Blind Date” and found yourself yelling at the screen pointing out all the wrong things the fools on the show are doing? Ever sit there and analyze the entire episode from start to finish? Well, so have I. And in that spirit, I have decided to write an analysis of various dating disasters that run across on the net. For the next few entries, I will be analyzing some of the dating disasters found in this article: http: 27 Dating Disasters. Now on to the first situation…

Disaster: “After a bad breakup, I let my mom set me up with the son of one of her friends. I knew nothing about him other than his name and the fact that he was 16 years my senior. I like older men, so I agreed. It ended up being the shortest dinner date in history — a total of 22 minutes, mostly consisting of him making outdated pop culture reference in an attempt to relate to me. Every time I tried to steer the conversation towards his interests or some kind of mutual ground, he would come out with questions like “So what’s your favorite show on MTV?” and “So how about that Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman?” (You’re a little behind, buddy). I was bored to tears and couldn’t wait to get out of there.”

Analysis: OK, this obvious rule #3 in the Dating Bible: Don’t bore your date. First, she probably wasn’t too keen on this guy’s looks in the first place or she would’ve given him the benefit of the doubt (and multiple benefits of the doubt at that). The fact that this whole thing was over in 22 minutes shows that she already made an instantaneous NO decision in the first 30 seconds, and was already probably somewhat biased by the fact that he was 16 years older. She does state that she likes older guys, but maybe not THAT much older. She would have to have some real daddy issues to be wildly attracted to guys who could be her father.

Plus this was a blind date orchestrated by her mother, so this girl was probably already looking for reasons for it to not work out. Just imagine her embarrassment, she is probably contemplating, as she has to tell her friends how she met this guy. So this guy probably already has three strikes against him before he even opens his mouth- he is ugly, he is old, and he was set up by her mother. Basically, this guy didn’t have a chance in hell.

Moving on, what minuscule chance he had, he completely blew by trying to be someone who he was not. Look, if you don’t watch TV and you are not up to date with pop culture, don’t pretend like you are. Your date will see right through it and won’t be buying it. Most importantly, you will seem like a weak, spineless individual who doesn’t have enough confidence to be yourself, without putting on a charade. This guy’s frame was all wrong. Instead of drawing his date into his own reality, he tried to guess what hers was and then tried to conform to it. Unfortunately, he had no idea what she was into, nor how to respond. Worst of all, not only did he not know who she was, he didn’t know who he was either. The best way to lose attraction is to have no idea who you are or what you want and to try to mold your reality to someone else. Unfortunately, there was a good reason why this guy was old and single.

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