Q: Hey dude- love your blog. Got a question for you bro- my girl has been talking about doing porno on the internet for extra cash- nothing hardcore, know what I’m saying?  Just cam stuff- I don’t know what to think…. you look like you know what you are talking ’bout. What do you think?

-Sam

A: Hey, thanks for the love. That said, what do you mean I look like I know about this cam stuff? Pray tell.

Look, there’s several ways of looking at this. First, I would venture to say that your girl is enthusiastic, willing, and experimental in bed if she’s interested in doing internet porn. Right? So those are some good things for a guy, no doubt. OK, then there’s the issue of the actual cam shows. Putting all discussion of morality aside (which don’t even apply here anyway) there is probably little chance that anyone that you know would actually see the cam shows since they are live shows and likely won’t be recorded anywhere. At the very least, make sure that the cam shows cannot be recorded. So if no one you know will see what you’re up to, then hell, it just might be worth trying…. I mean voyeurism and exhibitionism are all aspect of sexuality than can potentially enhance your sex life. Who knows you- you may like it and it can add some extra spice to your sex lives or you may not like it, but no harm no foul.

The problem can arise if your girl wants to take this stuff too seriously. And move further into other forms of sex work such as stripping or hard core porn. Again, ignoring any mention of morality, stripping and sex are really crummy ways to make a living, especially for the boyfriend attached. You may think it may be exciting to have other guys salivate over your girl, but the lifestyle sucks and is not worth the money. If your girl strips, she will be out all night all the time, come home in the early morning, sleep all day and then wake up and start putting on makeup. You will never get to be with her and it’s gonna be all about the stripping. The porn- I’m sure you don’t actually want your girl doing that, for obvious reasons, enough said.

So what should you do? You know your girl better than I do… maybe a little cam show here or there can add an exciting element to your relationship. But if it goes anywhere beyond that, I think it’s time to take a stand.

Good luck.

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