I often find myself reading other web sites and blogs and sometimes I run into some golden nuggets that I just can’t pass up.  I found the text quoted below on the web, and it was so spot-on that I had to share it here. It’s about what it means to “Become a Man” and “Treat a Woman like a Woman” from the perspective of an older guy from a different generation. The basic premise is that the younger generation of men do not know how what it means to be a man or how to treat a woman…. just read for yourself…. you’ll get the point.

A moment of perspective from a doddering old observer?

Back in the day, two assumptions were commonly shared:

1) A male had to learn how to be a man. You might chuckle a bit irreverently over Cary Grant, James Bond, John Wayne. But ultimately you had to learn how to step up to the plate yourself. Total irreverence, total unformed-ness — that was either for (some) gays or for boys.

2) Part of Becoming a Man was learning how to Treat a Woman Like a Woman. What this basically involved was a recognition that women are basically organic/emotional/religious/irrational creatures, no matter what their other gifts. Treat ‘em right and they’ll purr and do nice things for you. Treat ‘em wrong and man will they make you pay.

“Right” here didn’t mean “be a nice guy” let alone “be a wuss.” It meant “be a man” — to have some daring, recognize the woman inside her, have the guts to reach inside her emotionally and massage her buttons, and to guide and steer her when necessary. The potential reward: sex and fun, but maybe also love and loyalty. Nothing wrong with the first without the second, but all together is nice too.

Incidentally, it was understood that there were honorable and dishonarable ways of Being a Man and Treating Her Like a Woman. Just having a way with the babes wasn’t enough. You also didn’t abuse the power.

Anyway: what surprises me in these discussions hereabout isn’t the enthusiasm about trading ideas and info about how to Treat The Ladies Like Ladies. It’s the vehemence and anger. What’s that about?

My guesses:

1) You younger dudes were raised post-feminism, thus it’s a *complete* mind-fucker to discover that what you were told corresponds to reality barely at all.

2) You were raised to think that the man’s role was to play support staff to the ladies. Thus you’re delighted to discover that the guy can sit at the steering wheel too, and enraged to realize that this info was kept from you.

3) You’re waking up to the fact that your balls were taken from you early on — and that you’re entitled to have ‘em and put ‘em to use.

Something like that?

BTW, it seems to me that back in the day we didn’t have “Game,” we had “Courtship.” Learn how to do it and you could both have a mighty good, and rewarding, time “